Avoiding Conflict starts a War Inside

Brene Brown speaks to this.  She discusses the temporary discomfort of confronting conflict with a loved one or business associate weighed against the lasting pain of keeping silent and carrying the conflict within yourself where it can morph into all sorts of unpleasantness.  As someone who often avoids conflict and goes to silent resentment, I can attest to this.  It requires courage for sure.  Instead of going into defensive mode, you adopt an attitude of curiosity.  It's not easy but it's worth the effort.  KAS


Here's one of the quotes from Brown. 

“People often silence themselves, or "agree to disagree" without fully exploring the actual nature of the disagreement, for the sake of protecting a relationship and maintaining connection. But when we avoid certain conversations, and never fully learn how the other person feels about all of the issues, we sometimes end up making assumptions that not only perpetuate but deepen misunderstandings, and that can generate resentment.” 
― Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone